Hearing God's Voice

Hearing God's Voice

   Many times people pray about a situation and feel like they have a hard time hearing God's voice. How do we know what we "think" is God? When you study the Bible, you'll discover what millions of people have found throughout the centuries. You're reading the Word of the living God. In times past, He spoke to His special servants audibly, in visions, in dreams; now His main method of revelation to all humanity is His written word. The Holy Spirit directed forty holy men of God, living on three continents, to write His words into sixty-six books. These writings were preserved and collected into the single volume we know as the Bible. Though people wrote it, the Bible itself says God was its ultimate source. In 2 Timothy 3:16, we read, "All scripture is given by inspiration of God," which literally means it was breathed out by God. Isaiah 55:11 tells us, “So is my word that goes out from my mouth: it will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.” The Bible is God’s Word, everything we need to know in order to be saved and live the Christian life. Second Peter 1:3 declares, “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by his own glory and goodness.”

   God can also “speak” to us through events. He can guide us through arranging our circumstances. And God helps us to discern right from wrong through our consciences (1 Timothy 1:5;1 Peter 3:16). God is in the process of conforming our minds to think His thoughts (Romans 12:2). God allows events to occur in our lives to direct us, change us, and help us to grow spiritually (James 1:2–5;Hebrews 12:5–11). First Peter 1:6–7reminds us, “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.”

   God may sometimes speak audibly to people. It is highly doubtful, though, that this occurs as often as some people claim it does. Many times we say that we prayed about something. I know for myself that oftentimes the decision I make after the prayer is what I was leaning towards doing before I prayed. Again, even in the Bible, God speaking audibly is the exception, not the ordinary. If anyone claims that God has spoken to him or her, always compare what is said with what the Bible says. If God were to speak today, His words would be in full agreement with what He has said in the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16–17). God does not contradict Himself. When we need an answer to a problem, the best thing to do is pray and spend time reading His Word. When we have been reading His word He will call into remembrance a verse that will help guide us. This is primarily the way that God speaks to us. He uses the words that He inspired men to write thousands of years to go to guide us now until the end of time.

   The New Testament gives several descriptive titles to the Bible: the Word of God, the oracles of God, the Word of Christ, the holy scriptures, the holy scriptures, the word of truth, and the word of life. In studying the Bible, we're learning God's Word, holy and true, which contains the knowledge of eternal life. Many times in life people are looking for a sign, a sign on whether this person would make a good spouse, a sign on whether to take a new job, a sign on whether to do something. I believe that God gave us most of the signs that we need in His Word. Anything that God will agree to will be supported by scripture. Once again, God doesn't contradict himself. I also would like to point out something that I was made aware to me in one of my theology classes. In the Bible, everything that God inspired men to write can be equated to the relationship of a Father and son or the relationship of husband and wife. So either God is commanding us to do things as a father speaking to a son (man and woman) or He is showing us how to conduct ourselves in a marital relationship. In the book of Proverbs, we're given a bunch of general truths to follow. This relationship in Proverbs is the relationship between father and son. God is telling us all of the proverbs that will help us through life. God isn't physically among us, but He's always close to us in spirit and what keeps Him close is connecting to Him through His Word. I say all of that to say that God gave us His Word to speak to us and give us the wisdom that we need. Even though we need to speak to God about problems that arise,  there are some things that we don't need to pray about. We should already know what the answer is based on what God has told us already. In Exodus 14:15, Moses stopped to pray to God while He was being chased by Pharaoh. God told Moses to stop praying and get to moving! Prayer must have a vital place in our lives, but there is also a place for action. Sometimes we know what to do, but we pray for more guidance as an excuse to postpone doing it. If we know what we should do, then is it time to get moving. If you have a friend that wants you to help them steal something, would you pray about it or tell them no? We already know that stealing is a sin, so it would be a waste of time to pray about something that God clearly prohibits. So I encourage the readers of this post to spend time with God so that we can reference His Word when we need answers to problems that occur in our life. I pray that this message helps you and is a blessing to your heart and mind. I pray that we continually seek His will for our lives and allow it to guide the choices that we make. I pray that we never stop seeking His wisdom and never turn our eyes from His voice (His Word). God will always guide us in the right direction if we just trust Him to be the wise father that He is. I hope that I've encouraged you to spend more time with Him to get the answer to that question that you've been thinking about for so long.

What's Feeding Your Spirit?

   

In today’s world it’s so easy to get so busy for everything but God. We make weekly church attendance seem like that’s all we need, but in order to develop an intimate relationship with God we need to spend daily time with Him. From a human perspective, the busyness of life can keep us from scripture. Sometimes, we can be lazy when it comes to our spiritual health and responsibilities. And sometimes, we simply don’t understand how important Bible study actually is. We get so caught up with technology that we think that it can provide us with the intimacy that we need. Scrolling on instagram or watching youtube videos, we think that this fulfills the requirement of spending time with Jesus. An inspirational post here and watching a sermon on the way to work, and we feel as if our souls have what they need to last us all week. There’s nothing wrong with these things, but they can’t substitute for reading our Bible. A lot of quotes or viewpoints we see on social media may sound good, but are they really inspired by God’s word? We aren’t to just take someone else’s views as truth if we haven’t studied the scripture for ourself. Some may rationalize their lack of Bible study by saying that life is too busy or studying the Bible is too hard. Others, who struggle with sin, as we all do even as Christians, may honestly admit that it’s just too convicting to read. Please don’t let excuses stop you from studying God’s Word. From a spiritual perspective, sin in our lives can keep us from spending time in the Word. We can lose our spiritual appetite for the knowledge of God. The forces of darkness are doing all they can to keep us from studying God’s truth. Any activity that uses up our time will do — it doesn’t have to be evil, just something that weighs us down and takes our time. We might ask,”Isn’t going to church enough? Isn’t reading and studying the Bible what pastors and Sunday school teachers do?” It’s true that this is a large part of what pastors and teachers are to do, but it’s also what everyone in a church congregation is supposed to do. Pastor Alistair Begg has said that his job as a pastor isn’t just to feed the sheep, but to teach them how to cook! 

Jesus made it clear that learning and living the Bible is God’s will for our lives. He said, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the most of God” (Matthew 4:4). Bible study isn’t just a nice thing to do — it’s essential to our lives!

   “Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15). Learning God’s truth involves the work of studying. Like divers who work to locale pearls in the ocean or miners who labor to find gold in the earth, Christians are workers who study the Bible to discover God’s truth. We live our lives before God, and as servants we’re to regularly present our lives to Him to be examined. We hope to have a sense of His approval and eventually hear from Him, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” Divine approval comes from diligently studying God’s Word so we can ACCURATELY share it with others.

   Learning God’s truth through reading and studying the Bible is something He wants for us. Consider these verses:

Now the Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

Acts 17:11

 For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope.

Romans 15:4

 Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth. 

2 Timothy 2:15

   Verses like these should motivate us to be in our Bibles. Believers generally agree that the will of God includes gathering regularly with God’s people to worship and pray, living a life of faith and obedience, serving the Lord and spreading His gospel — but how many add that studying the Bible is also the will of God? Is this optional or essential? As the Berean believers (Acts 17:11) studied the scripture in an attempt to verify the truthfulness of Paul’s preaching, they were thorough in their approach to God’s Word and more than likely using one of several study methods that I’ll mention in a later blog. The Bereans were so committed to this that they did it DAILY. It’s a mistake for us to accept the message of Christian teachers just because they’re humorous, dynamic, on television or radio, or have written books. The content of their message must be true, and it’s good for us to validate it from our own study. Bible teachers should never be offended that people do this; they should encourage it.

   Believers who are growing in the knowledge of God’s truth have made a conscious decision to study the Word. Seek out those people who know a lot about the Bible, and ask them about their own study habits —then imitate their examples. We are all given the same twenty-four hours a day. You might consider rising earlier in the morning or eliminating a television show or two in the evening. Devote even a small amount of time to Bible study, and add to it as the pursuit becomes a regular habit in your life. Just like eating, studying the Bible is a lifelong activity. We’ll never get to the point where we’ve learned all there is to know about God’s Word, then be able to stop. Our spirit needs God’s Word every day just like our bodies need food. It’s wise to make your study time a matter of prayer. We pray about many things, and this subject is important to Him, too. It’s no accident that God allowed you to be born at this time with all the advantages we have to learn His word. Pray about your Bible study every day, because “the prayer of the upright is His delight” (Proverbs 15:8).

Our adversary, the devil, does all he can to keep us from obeying God’s will. God wants to bless us, and the devil wants to destroy us. If we as believers fall away from our Bible study, it might seem unimportant to us at that time. But we can be sure that the forces of darkness are celebrating and planning new ways to attack us.

   When Jesus defeated Satan’s temptation in the wilderness, Luke says,”The devil..departed from Him until an opportune time” (Luke 4:13). The devil leaves us for only a brief time. He always returns with different temptations until he finds what effective against us. Satan knows that Christians, without regular time in the Bible, become weak and ineffective for Christ. But with prayer and the sword of the Spirit — the Word of God — we can overcome this enemy of our souls, enjoying our time with God as we feed on His Word.

Discipleship

Do you know what a disciple is? This is one of the terms we commonly hear in the church, but what exactly does it mean? Who qualifies as a disciple, and what's required to become one? It's a term Jesus often used when calling people to follow Him, and before He ascended to the Father, He told His followers to make disciples of all nations (Matthew 28:19).

The word disciple means a learner, one who follows another's teaching. Although a variety of definitions have been used to describe this relationship, I would define a disciple as one who's accepted Jesus Christ as Savior, yielded to Him as Lord, and received Him as one's very life. A disciple is someone who can say, "it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me" (Gal. 2:20).

All disciples are Christians, but not everyone who attends church is a disciple. Those who simply listen to sermons without applying what they learn or sharing their faith are not disciples. A true disciple hungers for Christ and His Word and as a result grows in his or her Christian life.

Many churches today are more focused on numbers than discipleship, but Jesus was never impressed by the crowds that followed Him. In fact, He sometimes made difficult statements that caused the people to leave Him. This was the situation in Luke 14: 25-33. When large crowds were following Him, He told them what was required to be His disciple.

First of all, our loyalty, love, and devotion to Christ must supersede our love for everyone else. "If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple" (v. 26). Christ is not advocating that we should hate our family members. He's making a contrast between degrees of love. To be Christ's disciple, our obedience to Him takes priority over what our loved ones may expect or desire.

Throughout history, Christians have had to make hard choices in order to follow Christ, and we may be required to do the same. At one point in my life, I had to make a decision that resulted in misunderstanding, criticism, and opposition from people I love. Although it was a very painful experience, I learned what's demanded of a disciple of Christ. Sometimes our choices will look ridiculous to those around us, but disciples must be committed to obedience to Christ no matter what the consequences might be.

The second requirement for a disciple is death to self. "Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple" (v. 27). Sometimes we think our cross is an illness, problem, or heartache we must bear, but that's not what Jesus meant. The cross was an instrument of execution that resulted in death.

Sometimes believers must die in order to stay true to Christ, but most of us will probably not be called to a sacrifice so extreme. However, every disciple must undergo the death of self-life. We are no longer to live as we did before salvation. Instead of being attached to our former sins and lifestyles, we are to attach ourselves completely to Christ. We must be available to obey Him in whatever He calls us to do and in whatever He says we are to surrender. Any time we put qualifiers on our obedience, we are not acting like Christ's disciple.

Third, discipleship is costly (vv. 28-32). Jesus used two stories to illustrate this truth. He described the importance of counting the cost before building a tower and of evaluating an army's strength before going to war. Many people will sign up for an easier gospel that promises them only benefits, but that's not the message Jesus preached. When He called His disciples to follow Him, they left everything behind and devoted themselves fully to Him. They and countless other disciples throughout church history have endured hardship, suffering, and persecution, yet today we sometimes mistakenly assume the Christian life will be easy.

The fourth requirement for discipleship is full surrender of all we own. Jesus said, "So then, none of you can be My disciple who does not give up all his own possessions" (v. 33). When a rich, young ruler came to Jesus and asked what he should do to inherit eternal life, Jesus told him to sell everything he owned and give it to the poor (Mark 10:17-22). He knew this young man was attached to his possessions, and that's what was keeping him from wholeheartedly following Christ.

Although Jesus doesn't call all of us to literally give up everything we own, we must recognize that God is the owner of all we possess, and we are just the caretakers. Therefore we should hold everything loosely. A true disciple of Christ walks through life with a detachment from the things of this world in order to become fully attached to Christ.

Discipleship is what God desires for each of us. And the rewards of being Christ's disciple are worth every sacrifice. Yes, the cost may seem high, but Jesus hasn't left us to manage on our own. He's given us His spirit to guide and empower us and has promised that He will be with us to the end of the age. So take comfort in His faithful presence.

7 Ways to Determine if Your Relationship is God Ordained

By Jonnita Condra

The root of any relationship should begin with your relationship with God. It sets the tone for how you interact in other relationships (of all sorts). Ultimately, the more intimate you become with God, his peace will surpass your understanding. Meaning, you will be content with your portion of life, which ultimately makes you a better partner.

Here are 7 Ways to Determine if Your Relationship is God Ordained:

1) You will have peace.

Through every situation that you endure together, you will have peace at the end of the day.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:7

2) Your desire to fulfill God’s will- will surpass your own desires.

We have all went into relationships with our own agenda that was not in God’s will or timing; but when your heart has a genuine desire to please God, you will neglect all of your wants. God’s desire replaces your desire, and he only wants his best for you. It ultimately works out in your favor.

Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. – Psalm 37: 4

3) There will be purpose between the two of you.

Although it may not be initially revealed, as things progress, the bigger picture will start to unfold. Your relationship will be used to bless others. In fact, your journey will set an example for others to follow.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8: 28

4) Your relationship will not be a distraction.

Naturally, being involved with another person serves as a distraction to a certain degree, however, when your relationship is ordained by God, it will serve as a foundation and support system that propels you to and through your purpose.

So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will know them by their fruits. – Matthew 7: 17- 18

5) The relationship will push you closer to God.

It is not necessarily your partner’s responsibility to push you closer to God- that is a relationship you build on your own. When you both agree God will be the center of the relationship, you set the foundation that God will lead you both together.

Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven. For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst. – Matthew 18: 19- 20

6) Friendship will be more important than just having a relationship.

I honestly believe friendship is the foundation of unconditional love. We don’t go into friendships with hidden agendas. We find common ground with that person and the relationship grows. It is the safe place for each person to grow and learn without judgment.

Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. – 1 John 4: 11-12

7) Things will happen organically.

God’s timing is perfect, and that means everything will go according to his plan. Nothing can interfere with that.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. – Ecclesiastes 3: 11

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That's Just How I Am

     We're all guilty of it. We respond to hurt with harsh words or act insensitive to the needs of others. We only eat a particular food or wear a particular brand of clothing. It's who we are. We've found our comfort zone and we're very reluctant to veer from the norm. It could be the way we talk. More often than not, it's something opinionated, hurtful, or selfish. And we hide behind, "That's just who I am.", "That's just the way I've always been.", or "Better you than me, because I'm not that nice." Those are terrible things to say. Phrases like that assume that you've fully grown and achieved the status of "me" and "I am". Only God can rightfully be described as "I AM". The rest of us are becoming.

     We should never be limited or satisfied with who we are. It should never remain the same for long. Yes, God gave us tendencies and unique personalities through our genes and cultural background, but God also gives us grace to either grow those in positive directions or overcome them. "Who I am" is much less relevant and meaningful than who I am becoming.

     If you choose to hide behind the destination of "me", you're choosing conflict, disappointment, and frustration. You're settling in one place as those around you move on. You'll be a stationary obstacle as they travel on the path to who they're becoming. Let "you" be a movable concept in the hands of God. Have the humility to recognize needed changes and to appreciate outside input. Yes, God gave you tendencies and a personality. But God is I AM. You are becoming, He does not change. You should continue to change. Life is about growth. Growth is a destination that can't be reached until death. Don't settle for "I am". You will limit your growth and won't be very effective in accomplishing all God has called you to do. Some of your tendencies have to be changed so that you can take on the personality of the great "I AM".

"But Moses protested, “If I go to the people of Israel and tell them, ‘The God of your ancestors has sent me to you,’ they will ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what should I tell them?” God replied to Moses, “I am who i am.[a] Say this to the people of Israel: I am has sent me to you.” God also said to Moses, “Say this to the people of Israel: Yahweh, the God of your ancestors—the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob—has sent me to you.
This is my eternal name,
    my name to remember for all generations." ~ Exodus 3: 13-15

Convenient Love

“Convenience plays a huge factor in so many of the decisions we make each day. We often consider what will be the most convenient when it comes to our daily plans, future decisions, and other basic events. We think about what the most convenient use of our time will be or how we can make something easier, faster, or more efficient. And oftentimes, it is both necessary and wise to think this way because it saves us time, money, and, let's face it, effort.

But some areas of our lives shouldn't be convenient. The decisions we make for relationships shouldn't always be about what's the most convenient. The way we handle struggles at work shouldn't always be about what's easier or faster. And, our relationship with Jesus should never be about convenience either.

Now, this is a big statement. This calls us to be uncomfortable, sacrificial, and in general, it asks us to be inconvenienced by our love for Christ. None of which is easy to do or to be.
With so many outside pressures and temptations, it's easy for us as Christians to justify sinful behavior. It's easy for us to decide that some sins are worse than others or for us to decide that certain sins are okay. Even more so, it's easy for us to sin without even being aware we are doing so. And sometimes, we abuse grace in the hopes that God will still be loving and forgive us anyways. We behave in a way that is convenient and hope that God won't do the same because regardless of our sin, we like to depend on the fact that God will still be there for us in a convenient way. So we continue to sin because it's convenient. But imagine if God only forgave us when it was convenient? Imagine if he only answered our prayers, showered us in grace, and loved us when it was convenient for Him?

We receive inconvenient (for Him), endless, unconditional love and forgiveness from Christ. And while it is inconvenient to sacrifice our desires, remove temptations, and struggle to live in a way that is pleasing to God, it is the loving response and the least we can do for someone who provides us with so much. While we will repeatedly fail at this and continue to sin, that is where His inconvenient grace and love is so great.

It's also convenient for us to pick and choose which parts of the bible work best for us. We are really good at memorizing the stereotypical verses that have everything in it for us because it's convenient to know those. We memorize verse after verse on God's love, power, strength, and forgiveness, yet we fail to recall the verses on His wrath, anger, and justness. We pick the rules and teachings that conveniently fit into our lifestyles, yet ignore the ones that might call us to any inconvenience.

But following God should be inconvenient. He calls us to live uncomfortable and radical lives. He challenges us to strengthen our faith and to act in crazy ways. He asks us to abstain from the things that tempt us the most. An inconvenient relationship with God leads to a life that flourishes with Jesus's strength, endurance, passion, forgiveness, and love. That sounds pretty convenient to me.” ~ Megan Graham

One of the easiest things to do is love when others treat us nice, we get a reward in return, or simply when we feel like it. I was taught to treat people with kindness and say nice things. But do I love like Jesus only when it’s convenient, or all the time as He commanded us to? I know that God has called us to love. Love isn’t conditional. I don’t love if this condition is met or if that command is met. Love should be shown regardless and sometimes I struggle with that. Love is always the right thing to do no matter how I feel. I can follow the rules because I’m supposed to. I give to charity, give to the church, pay my taxes, don’t drive off without paying for my gas at the pump. I’m aware of doing the right thing and I know what the bare minimum entails. But there’s another way to live and that’s like Jesus. Do I treat people with love when they gossip about me, do I sacrifice my time only when I feel like it, do I give to others only when I feel like it? There’s another way to live and that’s like Jesus. I know that Jesus is fully aware of our inaction and our half-hearted smiles. I’ll never believe that Jesus is cool with me quoting, “Love God and love your neighbor” while I pass that neighbor by, pretending I’m not aware there was a need. I’ve taught myself to make sacrifices for others when its convenient to my calendar and my bank account. If loving people is going to interrupt my schedule, I might have to take a raincheck. I live a life blinded to the reality of the struggles of the people around me. I know how to do the right thing. I can spend a lot of hours doing community service. I know how much money I’ve donated to charity, but all of that came at my leisure. It showed up at the right time in the right way so I did it.

So how can I change my attitude and perception of sacrificial living? When do I approach the teachings of Jesus as if they matter more than my convenience? When do I embrace the idea that loving others isn’t just the right thing, it’s the only thing. I know that I can’t help everyone, but that should be no excuse not to help anyone. It seems ridiculous to say this but here it comes…We can do this better. We can CHOOSE to love like Jesus did.

Men & Emotions

Emotions

Emotions are a part of life. They are universal whether you are man, woman, or child. They make us human. At some point in life we will all experience great happiness due to achieving a goal, anger when frustrated with a difficult situation, sadness at the loss of a loved one, and so many things in between. Emotions serve a purpose. These emotions get our attention and demand a response. Emotions like fear can protect you. Emotions like anger or shame can impel you to take appropriate action. God can also use these emotions to help you reflect on what's happening beneath the surface in your life. Emotions can be a gauge of issues buried deep within the soul.

Society's View of Emotions

This post is to talk about society's view of emotions for men. It's accepted for men to display emotions such as happiness or anger, but the world tells us a man is weak if he shows fear or sadness. True, men probably shouldn't have these emotions as frequently as women, but it's okay for men to feel every emotion that there is and not be ashamed of it. Our world has different standards of when to show certain emotions. In our society, we are told that it's okay for men to be angry, and to express anger with violence in some situations but not in others. For example, you can fight another man, but not hit a woman or child. Our society tells us that it's a weakness for men to express their feelings, especially ones like fear or sadness. Growing up, we heard, "A man isn't supposed to cry", "Take it like a man", and "Man up!" It's more socially acceptable for women to express then kinds of feelings than men. We teach little boys that they shouldn't cry, and this does a lot of damage to their psychological health. To that boy who's being abused, he grows up with all of that hurt in his life. He has had no way to channel it so one day he lashes out in a violent manner. Emotions help us to heal if we release them and deal with them at that moment. Men can't show feelings of heartbreak or otherwise he'll be viewed as weak by his peers, so instead of expressing sadness he shows bitterness or angry and mistreats the next woman because it's the more "socially acceptable" thing to do.

Biblical Validation of Men's Emotions

So are we to get our views of love from society? If you're a Christian, you want to take a cue from what the Bible says. For example, David was a warrior king. He did many heroic exploits and won many battles. But when his infant son was dying, he wept and refused to eat (2 Samuel 12). Later when an adult son rebelled against him and was killed in the process, David cried openly (2 Samuel 18:33). 

Jesus also expressed a whole range of emotions, including anger.

Matthew 21:12-13 Jesus entered the Temple and began to drive out all the people buying and selling animals for sacrifice. He knocked over the tables of the money changers and the chairs of those selling doves. 13 He said to them, “The Scriptures declare, ‘My Temple will be called a house of prayer,’ but you have turned it into a den of thieves!”

That seems like a manly expression of emotion, according to our culture. But Jesus also wept in public over the death of a friend (John 11:35). Nothing is wrong with showing emotions. It is healthy and normal to feel a wide range of emotions in this life. It's okay to feel these emotions as long as we don't let them control us. Remember, there's a purpose to why you feel the way you do.

What should Men Do With Their Emotions?

• Don't deny or stuff them. They are part of how God created you. Men don't have to be like women in order to feel and express emotions. So be aware of your emotions and don't pretend they aren't real.

• Allow them to teach you. Have the courage to ask, "Why am I feeling this? What is causing me to be angry? To feel this fear?" These questions can reveal important issues beneath the surface that you might otherwise not recognize. Once you tuned in, you can address those issues in a healthy way.

• Don't let them rule your choices. Acknowledge what you're feeling. Then respond to those feelings in a way that honors God. Choose to act based on God's word and God's truth rather than on the impulse of the emotion.

Again, men are different from women. That doesn't mean men don't have emotions. Men can learn to respond to emotions in a way that is honest yet also brings honor to God.