Qualities of a Godly Husband

So I made a blog to let men know what kind of woman to look for. I couldn't forget about my brothers, so I wrote one on the qualities a man should seek to have within himself. Initially is seems that Proverbs had little to say to the woman who sought to discern the qualities of a godly husband. I have come to see that this is not at all the case. In general, we can say that a woman should seek a man who is wise. Proverbs speaks a lot on wisdom. These are things that seem applicable to marriage:

1. A wise husband is kind and compassionate (12:10).

2. A wise husband is honest (29:24).

3. A wise husband is hard-working (12:11; 27:23-27).

4. A wise husband is truthful (12:17,19)

5. A wise husband exercises self-control (12:15; 16:32).

6. A wise husband has a gentle tongue (12:18; 15:1-2,4).

7. A wise husband is generous (14:21; 28:27).

8. A wise husband is willing to be corrected (even by his wife) and listens to counsel (12:15; 15:12,31-32, 28:13; 29:1).

9. A wise husband is a man of integrity (19:1; 20:7)

10. A wise husband is faithful and reliable (17:17; 29:3; contrast 25:19; 31:3).

11. A wise husband is forgiving (19:11).

12. A wise husband is willing to admit he is wrong (28:13).

13. A wise husband is humble (15:25,33; 16:18-19; 18:12; 29:23).

14. A wise husband is not contentious, but a peacemaker (17:1; 18:1,19).

15. A wise husband has control of his temper (14:29; 16:32; 17:27; 29:11).

16. A wise husband is a man who avoids excesses (20:1; 23:20-21, 29-35; 31:3-9).

17. A wise husband has a concern for others, especially the poor and the oppressed (29:7).

18. A wise husband can keep a confidence (17:9; 26:20).

19. A wise husband fears God and is obedient to His word (13:13; 14:26; 16:20; 28:25; 31:30)

20. A wise husband is not a jealous man (27:4).

21. The wise husband has a positive outlook on life (15:15; 17:22; 18:14)

10 Qualities of a Man

1. Priest - Leads his family and community spiritually. He prays with and for his family daily because he knows that the fervent, effectual prayers of a righteous man avail much. He takes his family to church and is not simply present on Sundays but actively involved. He stays submit to the church and its vision.

2. King - Provides financial, emotional, and physical stability for whom he is responsible for.

3. Warrior/Soldier - A protector. His spirit is assertive and aggressive. He is willing to live and die for what he believes in.

4. Character - He does not compromise his beliefs. He has a problem lying to his boss or breaking his promises.

5. Disciplined - Controls his flesh. He understands that success only comes with discipline and there is no room for excuses. He has enough self-control to stop lusting, drinking, smoking, lying, and fornicating.

6. Accountable - Allows himself to be challenged and held to a higher standard than the world would dictate. No man can be strong if he is not accountable to someone else. Do not refuse instruction and always seek wise and Godly counsel. A man without accountability is a dangerous man. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." Ecclesiastes 4:8-12

7. Committed - Will do whatever it takes to achieve goals. Sleepless nights are a small price to pay.

8. Servant - Jesus was a servant so never believe that serving others needs before your own is beneath you.

9. Visionary - Proverbs 29:18 says, "Where there is no vision the people perish". This man is living today but also sees tomorrow, he is planning and preparing for the future. He has conceived something in his mind and is now moving toward bringing that into existence.

10. Leader - He is the "point man". He leads by example and sets the tone. This man understands that as he goes, so the family goes.

Although there are many more qualities that a man should desire, these are some of the main ones in my eyes. But whatever you do, make sure your desired qualities are from God. If these qualities seem unattainable, remember that it will not happen overnight. We are in this battle together. Be willing to change and God will order your steps.